Have you been Schmoozing?

OK, first thing first - do you know what on earth is 'Schmoozing'?

Honestly, I didn't know about this term til I read an article few weeks ago.

Very simply, it means 'connecting and communicating', more than just 'small talk'. I believe many of us are caught in a situation where we need to make small talk to people we meet in parties, business meetings, social gatherings and perhaps just in the office.

Accroding to 'Vault Guide to Schmoozing', schmoozing is 'noticing people, connecting with them, keep in touch iwth them - and benefiting from relationships with them'.

This is a skill to be mastered in a 'mutually productive and pleasurable way', 'half chatter, half exploration'.

It sounds simple yet we find that it's a skill that requires much practice, effort and sincerity.

To get started, put on a sincere smile when you meet someone - not a obliging or weak superficial one.

Take interest in the person you are talking to. Don't talk with the intention to get something out of it. Enjoy the conversation.

Listening is a skill we must all master to be liked. By listening attentively, you can take the conversation further and find more common grounds.

Follow up with an email, sms or phone call if you have had a wonderful time with our new acquaintance. But don't be a 'hustler'. Respect your acquaintance.

So now that you know what Schmoozing is, connecting with someone will become easier and more meaningful.